It isn't about guilt. It's about not blaming others for what's going on in your life. It's about giving and not taking but giving responsibly without turning yourself into a victim- no co-dependency!
It's an easy concept to understand and a harder one to achieve but not impossible. I saw this work in my own life. Once I got over the bitterness of the abuse and focused on making my life better it DID get better. I will never again allow myself to become a victim. Not even for a short period of time. This week I stood up to my boss about something that was important to me and won. I am the mistress of my own future.
We create our own reality. We can be victims or God. The choice is ours to make.